10 Tips for Becoming a Daughter-in-law of Mother-in-Law

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Friend, since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems to never get along. It seems like it has become a public secret to the point of being filmed and filmed.



Not a few potential single women who do not want to get married just because they do not want to conflict with the mother-in-law.



"No, I don't. I'd better be happy than marriage but arranged by my parents-in-law, "



"It's better to have a career,"



Ehm ...



Mother-in-law is indeed different from biological mother, in the sense that she is a stranger before we then know because her child married us. And to be honest, those whose names are known briefly by knowing Laamaa must be different.



Equally diomelin for example, usually we will not be offended if the one who did it was long ago, especially if it was a biological mother, "My mother really likes it," not hurt, tomorrow is also lost. But being scolded by someone who just knew, it might be different, even self-esteem can be hurt. Especially if the one who nags is the woman who loves the same men as us ... the mother-in-law.



But don't hurry. We can use some of the tips below to maintain good relations with mother-in-law, namely:

1. Never compete



Reassure or doctrine in our subconscious that mother-in-law is not a rival / rival. She is the mother who gave birth to her husband, the man we love. No mother-in-law, no husband, the fact is like that. So yes, never position him as a competitor to get the attention of her husband. Wife love and mother love are two different types of love. Realize that.





2. Don't stop your husband from serving



We will also become mothers later. What would it feel like to have a daughter-in-law who is blocking our children from serving us. It must hurt. So, we can't do that either. Do not prevent the husband to serve in addition to not appropriate (the same rival-in-law) also makes the husband confused.



And to be honest, when we allow a husband to worship his mother, her husband's love for us will grow even greater. Assuming her husband is sholeh. If you don't believe, please prove it yourself.





3. Do positive activities



What is the connection between doing positive activities and being loved by your in-laws? At first glance there isn't. In fact there are.



Someone who has no meaningful activities, his life will be fulfilled. by strange and negative things and thoughts. Not infrequently when upset with the attitude of the in-laws, daughter-in-law who does not have any activity will usually further develop resentment. Different from those who have positive activities, whatever they are.



"Well, never mind, just accept that mama-in-law is fussy. Maybe he is tired and bored. Thankful I have a lot of activities so it's not saturated, "





4. Don't reply if your parents-in-law say spicy or angry



"Actually, the Fulan actually wanted to be taken by the doctor's daughter-in-law,"

"There used to be a lot of girls who called Fulan,"



Honestly, as a normal wife maybe our hearts feel diluted. What are you doing talking about the past. Why do you show or show off as if our husband was really in demand and as if we were very lucky while he was not.



It's normal and normal to feel like that, but STOP. Already, don't imagine anymore.



Just be quiet and smile when your mother-in-law tells a story like that. Show that we are a wise wife, not an emotional wife. Just be quiet and smile, don't ever reply like "Oh yeah Ma, I was also chased by guys from the province and all of them have potential," now this even shows an immature attitude.



Positive only. It could be that the mother-in-law of a story like that just wants to tell a story and that we, who are judged to have many advantages, are on par with their children. No wonder.

Ustadz Miftahudin
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